Cutepups Support: For Those Who Need It (Semi-Repost)

Hello! :)

I'm in the mood to make another self-care/advice kind of post. This post won't have any links in it, but I'll make future posts in this segment that do. And are just simply better than how I say things.

Anyway, here's a list of 5 self-care tips I posted at the end of a post in November. Reposting them because.. because...

The message I say in them is so, so important no matter who you are. Everyone has those struggling, bad days sometimes. Maybe not as often as other people. But we all still do.

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1. SOCIALIZE. This is coming from someone who is extremely socially awkward and such an introvert. Believe me, guys. If you've been feeling upset (whether that be physically, mentally, and/or emotionally), talk to someone. Online chatting might not be enough. Talking to someone you know and can trust in real life (IRL) can make all the difference. It makes you feel far less alone. Oh and if you're doubting me, then you're the one who's wrong, not me. It might not be your immediate family, it might not be friends, but please believe me that someone, somewhere cares a whole lot about you. And they're supporting you. And if no one else does, then I do. Even if you have no feelings for other people, I care. Honestly, that's how I am IRL. I've learned it the hard way. There's no point in bottling your feelings up inside yourself just to rot. It's far better to just tell someone. And if you really can't IRL, then please talk to someone online. Support blogs, support websites (like the dawn room- thequietplaceproject), even me if you really want to. Hiding your feelings away really doesn't solve anything. You are loved. Okay? Okay. 

2. Listen to your favorite music, or listen to some soothing sounds (like rain for example). Like, for me, I've been listening to Twenty One Pilots (and a few other bands). And while listening, I felt kinda better. And besides, listening to some specific sounds has been scientifically proved to make you feel more calm and less anxious (like listening to cats purring lol). Anyway, who doesn't love listening to their favorite songs? I don't know about you guys, but listening to some of my favorite songs motivates and inspires me. Haha, yeah.

3. If it's cold, snuggle up in some cozy blankets and wear comfortable clothes. Maybe even drink a hot beverage as well (lol gotta love some hot chocolate, right? or like tea or something.. idk). And stroke your pets or stuffed animals.

4. VENT. Yeah, just go out and vent. Write down all the reasons why you're upset and then rip it up. Draw a picture and do the same thing. Vent through writing or drawing and post it online. If you feel like you're not ready to go out and tell anyone (IRL) what you're feeling yet, then at least get your feelings out by venting. No one even has to know what you put. No one ever has to see your vents.

5. Just do any activity that distracts you from thinking your negative thoughts. Read a book, take a shower/bath, go on a run, do anything you enjoy. Even if you think you're not interested in doing your favorite activities anymore, just do them. Obviously I mean not anything that's harmful of course. It most likely is just negative feelings (ex. depression) that makes you feel not interested in doing activities you like. But please remember, that's not you. You are not your negativity. Your feelings will pass. You'll love your favorite activities again one day. It might not be tomorrow, next week, or next month, but that day will come. You'll feel better. Believe in yourself. You can and you will. 

You are not your symptoms.
You are not your disease.
You are not your bullies.
You are not your backstabbing friends.
You are not your abusive (physically, emotionally, and/or mentally) family.
You are you.
And that's all you need.

Life can be real crap.
Life can be confusing.
I know life can suck.
But I also know that things will change one day.

No, I'm not saying it will 100% get better. I know that's BS. Not everything has the ability to get better. I know how that feels. No one will ever truly understand what it's like to be you. You will never truly understand what I think about everything. Our feet may be the same size, but they can only walk in our own shoes. "Take a day in another person's shoes." Well, that's not 100% possible.

You are not alone.
Someone cares about you.
Someone out there loves you. (Just validating romantic love is BS.)
Your feelings are valid.
You, as a human being, are valid.

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Take care.

~ Cutepups <3